Are You a GO or a NO?
There comes a point when you start questioning everything. Maybe you’ve been there. You look around at your life and think, Why does everything feel so hard? Why is nothing exciting? Why does my life feel like a constant battle instead of a flow?
I spent years stuck in that feeling—frustrated, lost, searching for the thing that was wrong. I told myself it was bad luck. Circumstance. Maybe even fate. But after enough time, I finally realised the brutal truth: the life I was living that was frustrating me so much was the life I had built for myself.
In my mid-20s, I had a choice. A big one. There was a path leading straight to what I thought my dream was. I didn’t know what would be required of me to go there, but I was on this path. I knew that it was also uncomfortable, and uncertain. And I was scared. So, I convinced myself that I could be happy with something smaller—something safer. A simple career, a quiet life, something “normal.”
Unfortunately, life had other plans.
No matter how hard I tried to settle, I couldn’t escape the gnawing sense that something was missing. The deeper I looked, the clearer it became: my world lacked excitement, authentic connection, curiosity—everything that actually mattered to me. And it wasn’t just about my choices. It was about the people around me.
GO vs. NO
Over time, I’ve realised there are two kinds of people in this world.
The GO people – They have an inner drive, a restlessness that keeps them moving, growing, searching. They push through fear, take risks, and refuse to stay stuck. Even when they fail, they keep going.
The NO people – They resist change. They avoid the unknown. They stay where it’s comfortable, often convincing themselves that they never really wanted more in the first place.
It’s not about success or ambition, or high risks—it’s deeper than that. Some people are just wired to move, while others will always find reasons to stay still. And if you’re a GO person, surrounding yourself with NO people can drain you, frustrate you, and hold you back in ways you don’t even realise, not because they’re bad people, but because their values might clash with your momentum.
The Frustration of Being a GO in a World Full of NO
If you’re someone who wants more out of life, you’ve probably felt it—that constant friction. It’s the exhaustion of explaining yourself to people who just don’t get it. The loneliness of being misunderstood. The frustration of watching people complain about their situation but never actually change it.
For a long time, I was angry. I wanted to shake people awake. Why wouldn’t they just TRY? Why did they make excuses, blame others, settle for a life that didn’t inspire them? Why didn’t they want to listen to their hearts? Their words were clearly speaking of their true desires, they just weren’t listenting.
But here’s what I’ve learned: It’s not my job to change them.
The hardest, but most freeing truth is this: they are stuck. They might always be. And it’s not their fault. They can’t see you because you’ve in some way out-matured them. This isn’t meant as harshly as it may sound. It’s not that they’re wrong or behind—it’s just that they’re prioritising different things. And that’s okay. But it also means you can’t expect them to understand your urgency or your hunger for more.
If you know the feeling of being misunderstood by almost everyone, that’s not a sign that something is wrong with them or you. It’s a sign that you are not living your potential.
Call it their soul path. Call it destiny. Whatever it is, it’s not on us to push them to a place where they don’t belong. In the end, we’re the ones who will suffer if we try.
The Biggest Flex? Making Peace With It
Of course, it’s rarely as black and white as GO or NO. People are complex. We all have moments when we lean more towards one than the other. But if, at your core, you know you're wired to move, to stretch, to become—then trying to shrink yourself to fit someone else's pace will always feel wrong.
There’s a real power in learning to accept that not everyone is built like you. Instead of fighting them, instead of constantly trying to push them forward, you set your boundaries, take your distance, or keep moving.
It’s not about cutting people off. It’s about recognising who adds to your momentum and who slows you down. It’s about protecting your energy so you don’t waste your life trying to drag people somewhere they don’t want to go.
Because the truth is: the more you step into your own potential, the less you need them to understand.
So if you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or drained by the people around you, ask yourself this:
Are you a GO or a NO?
And if you’re a GO, are you letting NOs hold you back?
At the end of the day, the only thing standing between you and the life you want is the choice to keep moving. So go.