I’ve followed every self-help theory and spiritual shortcut out there. Until they all started to feel hollow. This piece is a call to return to what’s real: presence, connection, and healing that doesn’t come wrapped in a brand.

Diagnosis can help us feel understood. But it’s not who we are. This is a reminder to grow beyond the label and into simply being you.

Most of us go through life unaware of the hidden forces shaping our choices, relationships, and sense of self. We believe we know who we are—until life triggers us, exposing patterns we didn’t even realise we were caught in. True self-discovery isn’t about fixing what’s ‘wrong’ with us; it’s about seeing ourselves clearly, beyond the masks we’ve been taught to wear.

We've been taught to look for trauma in the past, in our parents, in our childhoods. But what if the real struggle lies in simply living in a world that doesn’t align with who we are? The deeper I dug into trauma, the more I realised that the real issue wasn’t about fixing the past—it was about surviving the present.

One of the deepest traumas in my life is feeling like I’m always ‘too much.’ My thoughts, my needs, my very self. It’s not a made-up sentiment; it’s rooted in years of being reminded that my authenticity is ‘too weird’ or ‘too much.’ Whether I’m socialising, managing relationships, or simply trying to cope, the message I get is clear: I don’t fit.

Healing is a journey, not a destination. It's about striving to improve our well-being, even when the odds seem stacked against us. In a world where many resist the idea of healing, we are often left to explore alternative paths, discovering that true healing encompasses body, mind, and spirit. It’s a journey fraught with challenges, but it is one worth pursuing—whether it's healing with trauma, neurodivergence, or dealing with the struggles of our daily lives.